| i like the poems
'RANEISHA B 1/6/2005 |
| I am surprised to find that there is a website dedicated to loneliness. I am married but lonely and I have been feeling this way for sometime. How many times can one communicate about loneliness with a partner when the partner thinks the solution is sex? Very lonely, don't have close friends that I can share my inner thoughts with. Diary - workable but not confident about writing my brain out. anyway thank you for the enlightnment and sure hope to use some of the advise you gave (the productive ones:-)
1/13/2005 |
| I just wanted to suggest that you put up a message board for people to discuss loneliness. I really think it would be a good idea.
-- 2/2/2005
PS Message board is available at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/webofloneliness/ |
| I found the Web of Loneliness just yesterday and it is such a powerful website! It is clear, friendly, warm, inviting and to the point. I'm pleased to have found such a site and I feel less lonely already :) I feel empowered knowing more about the causes of loneliness and that it is not just something people say they feel to get the sympathy of others or to get attention. I would say it is much like depression, an illness almost. It's not tangible but it is very real. I love the dark but strong colours used on the site and the layout. I have found it easy using the site so far and hope to continue to! I've yet to do the questionnaire and look forward to doing it. Thank you for this site Sean and please do continue with it. It is a blessing :)
Andrea 2/10/2005 |
| I am new to youre site so I can't say much at this point.
George P 3/8/2005 |
| well I thought I'd tell you why I'm lonely I think It's because when I let people in thay endup useing me your treat me like a fool. then I close myself off to them and others, I well in time under stand but I'm still lonely .
-- 3/11/2005 |
| I think the site is excellent, visit it alot. Cheers
Rach 3/12/2005 |
| An interesting site...as a lonely person (primarily in the evenings only), I am fascinated by the subject...what causes it and what it might portend. My appreciation abounds.
Marshall P 3/15/2005 |
| This website is quite interesting, and I always like to delve into the subject. I suffer from chronic lonliness, and I do not seek help. For almost a eight years I have been friendless (second grade to tenth grade). First it was bullying, then it was neglect. Yet I wish the best to everyone else here, and I hope that their pain soon will be quelled as mine cannot.
Evelyn B 4/1/2005 |
| I just feel that I am the only one that can be surrounded by people and still feel very very lonely am I the only one who ever feels this way.
Melissa 4/1/2005 |
| i found this site very helpful, i dont feel quite as alone anymore now i know there are reasons for how i feel and others who feel the same.
-- 4/4/2005 |
I do lots of research on the internet because I like to understand things instead of taking someone's word for it. Your website was perfect for helping me understand my life for the last 40 years! I am one of those chronically lonely individuals, I remember being lonely as a five year old! Finally, from reading your explanations I realize why, and since I told you I've been lonely off and one for 40 years you can guess the reason why! I surprisingly have never even thought of suicide! But it was interesting to finally realize why I'd do certain things, and I've done them all! The part that hurt the most to learn is that yes all those little remarks about what other's have and I don't means I've reached that bitterness and anger level and I don't think I'll ever NOT be lonely! My 13 year old used to be the one that helped but that was up until she turned into a teenager and boy did she become different, from my sweet little do anything for Mom child to that chit chatting with her friends and Mom do I have to type child! Now I'm back to the hardcore loneliness again. I haven't thoroughly finished the entire site. I'm taking these bits of information a bit at a time, I'd much rather fantasize about running away with a certain singer!
Thanks again.
Lonely wife & Mom of 3 in WI 4/6/2005 |
| I find everything on your site very accurate. I've been experiencing loneliness since I was 9 ( I am now 15) and it has forever changed my life. I also have a "fake self" the hyper me at school. SO nice that some people don't see loneliness as some psychic killer type of personality.
-- 4/14/2005 |
| Good site. Very informative. I learned
alot, but little that helped me. Not to say that this site doesnt
have useful things, just nothing for me. Still, good site.
Nick 4/24/2005 Rated site: "A
little helpful" |
Glad to find this site, Maybe it will be
helpful if even just to read of others for now. I had two close
online friends just end freindship of many months with such indifference
after much warmth and fun, and happy close times. No reasons given. I like
to be needed, appreciated, helpful to others. I'm compassionate, caring to
those I get to know much better. Expected I might find same back for me
when I needed it, but Thats where I've been disappointed. Dont want
sympathy, just compassion and understanding as I have given to others. I
never criticize except in defense of myself, and not cruelly, but
honestly. There is enough of criticism and Cruel honesty in the world
along with the lies and fake people playing roles. Maybe I join you
someday in chats? I saw a "TOM" writing on here
earlier in 2001, felt like I do. Where are you? 8-)
Thanks! Sean for this site, could use more of these, know there are too
many lonely people who could use more sites like this on internet.
lildragon (what my 'friend' used to call me as an endearment. 8-(```
Still raw and hurting-
lildragon 4/27/2005 Rated site: "A
little helpful" |
| Thanks for the good job STEPHMENS 5/7/2005
Rated site: "Very
helpful" |
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Joel 5/23/2005 Rated site: "Very
helpful" |
| your site gave a very discriptive view on
loneliness
Joel 6/3/2005 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| Hey stumbled arcoss your website, I love it. I
think that its really good, great source of information. I suffer from
clinical depression so experince alot of feelings includ. feeling alone.
Good luck I think its great you have got your own domain name now.You
should def keep up the good work.
Rach 7/14/2005 Rated site: "Very
Helpful" |
| I learned a lot from you website. I am
lonely...and I hate it. Two of my friends had babies in Dec 04. Several of
my single friends have found boyfriends and spend most of their time with
them. My family lives in a different city. A few months ago, I had a full
social calendar full of close friends and fun times. Now I find that
people are too busy to spend time with me. I now know I have to go out and
meet new friends. But because of my loneliness, I find it difficult to
motivate myself to socialize. I find myself spending time at home alone,
doing housework, running errands, and yes, even drinking (which I am so
not proud of, but it seems to alievate the loneliness). This is very hard
for me to go through as I've always had close friends in my life. They all
just seem busy and moving on with their lives and doing stuff with people
who are more like them (i.e. spending time with other new moms, spending
time with other couples, etc). I'm not sure how to get out o! f this and
motivate myself to get out and socialize. I sent out an email on Monday
asking people to get together for a drink after work on Friday...I asked
10 people...all responded with they have plans for that night or are going
away for the weekend with friends. Only one responded in the
affirmative...and he is bringing his two kids along who are visiting from
England. I can't tell you how heartbroken I am that most of the people
have plans...and I have none for this weekend. I am also seeing someone
for about a year now...but he doesn't want his children to know he is
dating yet...we've talked about it a lot...and he even doesn't want us to
go out in public yet...it is a complicated situation but I can understand
his reasoning...I wonder if I am putting up with this because I am lonely
and want someone - anyone - in my life...friend or lover!! Thanks for
putting perspective on my loneliness...I have some thinking to do (which
apparently is normal in lonely people...we are introspective...and that
may be a good thing right now... :).
Thanks,
Rachael 7/14/2005 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| Nice site, its nice to know what exactly all
the aspects are and how to go about changing them. Can't say im revalated
but definatly makes me feel better to read this.
Talon 7/14/2005 Rated site:
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Mike 7/20/2005 Rated site:
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Mary 8/15/2005 Rated site:
"Helpful" |
| Thank you for sharing this information! I think
that if more people had this information the world would be a healthier
place.
Brenda 8/20/2005 Rated site:
"Helpful" |
| This webpage is very helpful in understanding
more about loneliness
Chris 9/3/2005 Rated site:
"Very Helpful" |
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DeeDee 9/6/2005 Rated site:
"Helpful" |
| I was just floored when i read this site. I was
lonely and typed in the word "loneliness" into my browser and
this site was one of the links that came up, and WOW! there i was. I never
"Fit" more than one or two of the symptoms of depression, but i
"Fit" a great deal into the loneliness catagories. I am a
"Trait" loneliness person. Even in a crowd i am still lonely. My
significant other always askes me why i am so affraid to be alone and i
continually correct him that it's not about BEING alone, it is being
LONELY, he still doesn"t get it. but thanks anyway for all of your
great effort, i now have a better path to discovery thanks to your
efforts. Keep it up!!! and congratulations on graduating!!! You made it!
Cheryl Ann 9/7/2005 Rated site:
"Very Helpful" |
I think that everything mentioned on this site
is useful and it's all about us. I feel relieved while reading about
someone else's being down or sad, that it's not only me who's been in this
sort of situation. But, i also know that loneliness is a disease and the
more we feel sorry for ourselves - the deeper we spin in our problem.
That's why i really appreciate those articles and essays on the site that
are dedicated to methods of fighting with our despair. It's just too often
we give up and do not have enough potential..
Thank you
Thank you
Martin 9/9/2005 Rated site:
"Helpful" |
| This website helped me understand the
different types of being alone. and that everyone is alone... at some
point in life. my lonliness is fuelded by being all the guys best
girlfriend(one of the guys) instead of being one of the guy's girlfriend.
My guy friends tell me that i am everything that a guy looks for when then
look for the ideal girl when they are ready for a relationship, they even
joke and tell me that i should teach classes on how to be a cool chick cuz
im chill, laidback, outgoing, funny, understanding, not jealous, and easy
to open up to girl. i dont get why they say im perfect yet im not good
enough for any of them to want to date me. I've even come close to dating
a couple of them, but they said that im too much of a friend... or that
they werent ready for a relationship and when they were that i would be
the first to know... but i dont want to wait around for them to be ready.
ive been single for almost five years. i feel so alone when i go home! at
night and have no one to go to. i just want to pain and sadness of being
alone to go away.
Sarah 9/22/2005 Rated site:
"A Little Helpful" |
| -- Pam 9/29/2005 Rated site:
"Very Helpful" |
| -- Robien Winchester 10/04/2005 Rated site:
"Helpful" |
| the poetry makes me want to write some stuff
subject
MM 10/17/2005 Rated site:
"A Little Helpful" |
| after graduating from college and starting a
career at in my early 20s has brought me here. every man I let in my life
has treated me as 4th class and every woman i 'try' to be cool with has
given me the heaveho. i've tried to rid of this loneliness but only end up
hurt, especially by men. i hate it when the phone rings because only one
person rings me, my dear mother. without her on this earth I think I'd
kill myself and that's a solid promise I made to myself. there's 4 billion
people on this earth, but I feel like I'm on a deserted planet. life can
be cruel
Trace 10/28/2005 Rated site:
"Helpful" |
| hi my names cathy, i was very lonely until i
found out that me and my sisters long term boyfriend had great connections
in more ways than one and so i basically stole him... its all a game
really tho isnt it at the end of the day so i dont feel bad.. would love 2
hear your views tho as u ppl must b lonely aswell 2 b reading this
guestbook lets b friends...
Cathy 10/31/2005 Rated site:
"Very Helpful" |
| I did not know that there was an entire website
dedicated to loneliness. I found this site while completing a school paper
and found descriptions of myself in the content. Thank you for shedding
light on this important topic.
Jessica 11/1/2005 Rated site:
"Helpful" |
| I really appreciate having access to a website
devoted to loneliness. I have had a lot of experience with loneliness and
feeling alone. Most of my experiences have been unpleasant. I would have
appreciated having information about how to deal with my feelings of
loneliness, years ago.
Janice Cheeseman 11/3/2005 Rated site:
"Helpful" |
| Thank you for making this page. It helped me
identify my specifics in my loneliness, and by understanding it, I can
cope more freely. You have really, really changed my life. I was
contemplating suicide, but when I stumbled across this page, and read the
last sentence of the suicide ideation (Loneliness can be overcome, even if
you feel like you cannot escape it, there is a way out, others have done
it before you and you can too.), My feelings changed drastically. You gave
me a confidence nothing else could have, now I'm quite content with my
life, but still a tad lonely.
I can't thank you enough.
Lexi 11/6/2005 Rated site:
"Helpful" |
| -- Rita Garcia 11/13/2005 Rated site:
"Helpful" |
| -- Glenn C 11/16/2005 Rated site:
"A Little Helpful" |
| I find this website a comfort. I go to it alot.
I am a father of 2 teen boys and am about to go through my second divorce.
I have always felt alone with my wives and could not get support and love
from any of them. I stand alone again afraid for the future and wondering
if someone will ever love me again.
Robert 11/18/2005 Rated site:
"Very Helpful" |
| I also subbed to the yahoo group but don't see
any of my messages being posted. Not sure why this is, perhaps I've done
something wrong? Thanks for all the efforts you have put into this site
and the yahoo group if you began that as well. It's nice to have a place
to turn to.
Nancy 11/26/2005 Rated site:
"Helpful" |
| Very good page.
Bob 11/26/2005 Rated site:
"Very Helpful" |
| Very nice site. I really like the calmness of
the colors you use in it. It is very user friendly also. I know I am not
alone... there are many who feel the same as I. One of my favorite quotes,
and I do not know who it is from, is; "WE ARE ALL ALONE
TOGETHER..." Maybe if lonely people realize this, it'll help make
them understand it, and to feel less lonely!! Thank you.
Carrie 12/1/2005 Rated site:
"A Little Helpful" |
| I was disappointed immensely that the
discussion group linked to this site with the same name requests
"approval" before you can become a member. How depressing! Most
people on message boards are very mean to begin with. I'm already lonely.
I don't need more rejection!
K 12/5/2005 Rated site:
"A Little Helpful"
PS The discussion board requires "approval" to ensure that
spammers are not allowed to join the group. |
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Mary 12/6/2005 Rated site:
"A Little Helpful" |
| I'm happy I found this website. I have
experienced loneliness since I can remember. And this site definitely
helps me understand why that is. My "fake" self has plenty of
friends. The real me has nothing but tv and movies. I'm even in a great
relationship but I always feel misunderstood and not-special. I even
thought of hurting myself to get attention...but never acted on that
(aside from drinking). Now I see why thanks to this site. I plan to get
counseling as soon as I feel like I can afford it. I can't continue to
feel like this with no control of the situation.
Deanna 12/6/2005 Rated site:
"Very Helpful" |
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Annita Walker 12/8/2005 Rated site:
"A Little Helpful" |
| This is a cool website. i got a lot of
information subject
Kara 12/13/2005 Rated site:
"Very Helpful" |
| I am very alone but when i found this website
i've been alone but i will find someone to be there so i wont be alone
subject
Kara 12/14/2005 Rated site:
"Helpful" |
| Thanks! This website is really helpful! Btw for
you loners out there, listening to "Incomplete" from Backstreet
Boys and hugging my pillow really help me. :-)
Ronald 12/19/2005 Rated site:
"Very Helpful" |
| that gave me some understandable reasoning of
the basic cause of my lonlienes can be.. but i will see if i can chage my
state to the better throu this undertanding of it.i can change things back
if i change things coming. i pray to god that he might give me and others
who want to heal the power to do so. amen. hey, thank you for your
contribution.
diaspora-afro 12/21/2005 Rated site:
"Very Helpful" |
| Hi Sean,
I was recently looking for internet resources on loneliness to augment
my work and found your site. Seems to be a helpful resource and I'll pass
it along - Keep up the good work!
Stephen Shostek 12/22/2005 Rated site:
"Helpful" |
| I have searched the web many times looking for
resources and support groups dealing with loneliness but never found
anything. But, the other day I thought I'd try again and found Web of
Loneliness. I am so thankful that I found this site. I now have a little
glimmer of hope that perhaps I can move through my feelings of loneliness
and isolation.
Kathy 12/26/2005 Rated site:
"Very Helpful" |
I am not at all surprised to find a loneliness
web site. I have identified with your comments on how VERY painful
loneliness can be. I am male aged 43. I went straight from parents to
marriage and have NEVER lived alone before. My wife left me (actually
manouvered me out of our home), with our daughter 3 months ago. The
resulting loneliness is crushing. I do have some friends but find that
when - say - the friends who often visits me on a Monday evening can't
make it for some reason it's terrible! It's awful having a whole weekend
stretching in front of me with nothing arranged - and of course the
Christmas season was horrible. Even talking to friends on the phone or
having a visitor can never substitute for that familiar feeling of my wife
and daughter always being there - in a relationship with me. Now they're
gone and the emptiness and pain is unbearable. It's like the example you
give about being ready to burst.
There MUST be other resources for people feeling lonely beyond the
dangerous dating agencies etc!
Richard 12/27/2005 Rated site:
"A Little Helpful" |
| When I read the information provided on your
site, it was reading the thoughts in my mind. You have touched a lot of
the problems I have been facing all my life and have given me some ideas
to work with. When you write you book, not if mind you, I will certainly
buy it. I can see that you have suffered from loneliness because you have
such an indepth knowledge of it. Please keep your site up on the net as it
can be so helpful to many people looking for answers. Thank you for
caring!
Beth Cooper 12/30/2005 Rated site:
"Very Helpful" |
I have always had feelings of being alone. I
have had a few friends from time to time but no one that I can call close.
I got married 13 years ago, and it helped for a while, but now I feel
almost worse then when I really was alone. Your web site has helped me
understand and explain some of my feelings as well explain some of the
problems in my marriage. Thanks.
Paul Bennett 12/30/2005 Rated site:
"Very Helpful" |
