| Below are some selected entries made to my guestbook. I hope that
perhaps you can identify with some of the sentiments expressed here.
And as always, please feel free to sign my Guestbook,
send me an email, make
a donation, or join my discussion
group.
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| It helped me get through New Years...with a
little bit better understanding and I'm not crying any more at least right
now.... Thank You!
shellybean 1/1/2006 Rated site: "A Little Helpful" |
| What a marvellous layout and content. May God
bless
Chewbacca Weasley 1/16/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| holla at cha gurl!!!
Desirae 1/16/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| nice site. nice content. all good weldone.
hh 1/16/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| Firstly i have to confess that before visting
your site I never was a particularly lonely or unhappy person. Thankfully
after browsing your site for a while, I am still not a particulary lonely
person, I am, on the other hand, now quite depressed. Maybe you should
post some links to a depression help site. All this talk of lonliness and
losers (sob sob) has just left me quite depressed.
Mark 1/19/2006 Rated site: "Not At All Helpful" |
| Nice
Cindy 1/19/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
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Jeanette 1/21/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| this webisie is crap you helped but you still
suck
may may 1/23/2006 Rated site: "A Little Helpful" |
| I believe that there are more people today than
ever before but more lonely people than before. With all the people there
are today, it would seem that there would be a more easier way to bring
longly people together and help solve this problem, but as far I know
there is not. In the song written in the 60's by Simon and Garfunkle, the
Sounds of Silence, it talks about people talking but not speaking, hearing
but not listing. I believe that this applies today more than in the 60's
when it was written!
Bob 1/24/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| it's helped me to define the difference between
being alone and feeling lonely, it's like a light at the end of the tunnel
as i'm able to understand myself a bit more.
Sue 2/1/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| thank you great web site
Kristin 2/3/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| My life has changed, from Los Angeles, i moved
to New Mexico. Didn't have any friend yet. That's why i'm lonely.
Dimple Permoni 2/9/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
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Diana W. 2/11/2006 Rated site: "A Little Helpful" |
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Nuru 2/13/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| Reading people's entry in the guestbook is what
really touched me the most. Reading and finding correspondences with my
own life has been interesting. At times i have almost cried. It's made me
realise just how severe my situation is. Unlike most of the people here
who seem to be lonely even though they are in relationships. The truth is
that i have never been in a relationship and i am 32 years old. I've
always had people around but none who have wanted me. Many of the women i
have known have said i am sweet, cute, blah blah blah (i hate cuet etc),
but none have actually ever been interested in me. It's like i am a total
freak. Anyway before i bore to death i think the site is a great idea and
keep it up.
Hojala Johannesburg, South Africa 2/13/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| I had a gun to my head ready to end it all until
I visited this website. Now I feel liberated. Thanks to this website I now
know the meaning of loneliness and am therefore no longer lonely. :) After
I visited this site I found a girlfriend waiting for me in my email inbox.
THE CURE IS HERE, FOLKS!
Ryan 2/18/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| I have appreciated reading through your articles
on this web site. It has been a help to me as I have searched for answers
to my depression and loneliness. The part that struck me the hardest was
the Anxious/Ambivalent connection to a caregiver. I had to talk to my mom
about this one and soon realized that between my mom, my two older sisters
that helped raise me, and a babysitter I had four mothers. Talk about
being confused! Your description on this area described me perfectly. This
has been a wonderful help. Continue the fantastic work.
Gene Ringering 2/21/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| -- Rhona McInnes 2/26/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| A very interesting website both personally and
professionally, many things discussed rang true.
Krista Martin 2/27/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| -- keshia 2/27/2006 Rated site: "A Little Helpful" |
| Our children do not call us ..seems like we are
already dead...We were really good parents...Alot of people are being
neglected by their children now adays it seems..
Betty Boop 2/28/2006 |
| I guess nothing can help me find someone to
share my life with, and I am condemned to this fate.
Lord, what is it you would have me do? Joseph 2/28/2006 Rated site: "Not At All Helpful" |
| I would like to send my loneliness
"story". The reason why I feel lonely. I'd like to know what you
think about it. How can I go about it? Thanks, Adriana
Adriana 3/1/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| enjoyed looking at this 3rd year art student
doing art work about the topic of loneliness regards jusy subject
judy 3/9/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| still lonely as hell, but at least i know i'm
not alone in what it's like. thanks for the info.
madtothemax 3/18/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| I feel so lonely tonight, but when I opened this site, I found out that I'm not the only one who feel this way... Thanks,for opened my eyes....and my heart..... Shinta 3/19/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| Thanks to this website..for the more information
about loneliness.This website help me for my script.:) best regards, sari 3/19/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| I felt like I was reading about myself. I had a
deep suspicion that I was suffering from loneliness, and this web site has
affirmed my beliefs that my present situation is based on deep scars from
my past. This web site has also given me hope. Time to rally and face
them, with the hope of at least putting my loneliness to ease.
Thanks Sam 3/22/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| Thank you so much for helping me understand
completely. I always knew what sparked my lonely streak but this site put
a detailed perspective on loneliness for those who may not entirely
understand how and why we feel this way. This site is not for losers or
rejects; instead, it is for people who have lost the light and would like
to recapture it once more.
Syreeta 4/5/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| Loved it!!! You put everything into perspective.
Kelli 4/6/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| Simple so Simple life i want ...
Afjal 4/6/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| im 23 yr old guy that is always down depressed
and lonely i have never had a physical presence in my life and im 23 yr
old i feel like i have a womnans body yet i am a man makes me feel sad
uncomfortable in my self as well as uncomfortable being myself with ppl
wich occurs to the fact being lonely as ppl not being themselves wnt get
friends but then again how can 1 be them self when the 1 as in himself cnt
cope with his presence wich brings me to the fact that i am alone hardly
any friends hardly ever go out drink and feel depressed every weekend
crying out for help to my family b4 and they pass it of as me just going
through badpatch i have came close to suicide doctors luagh at me tell me
its all in my head they have no idea the hurt i go threw everyday of my
life like a leech inside my stomach eating away at me i feel i have less
life in my body each day and whenever i am happy which is never for very
long some 1 bursts my bubble and makes me feel like a ! piece of dirt on
there shoe again and i am away bk to square 1 maybee i am weak no maybe
about it i am but i am nice person i constantly get walked over i am bad
person every 1 attacks me i just dnt know any more i cant take much more i
never ever asked foir much in my life but to be happy an be loved.
billy 4/9/2006 Rated site: "A Little Helpful" |
| I read some of those poems and they are very
touching I can relate to them, because as a Child I was very shy and it
was hard for me to make friends so then I was very lonely. Now my Husband
is serving in the U.S. army and he has to be apart from me and everybody
critizes or puts me down for feeling lonely. What do you think about that?
Mary 4/11/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| Being alone sucks!!!!!!
Greg 4/11/2006 Rated site: "A Little Helpful" |
| very useful web
Mohsin 4/13/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| i've had major problems with loneliness, but it
seems to be something that society just ignores,so i was very impressed
when i saw your website and saw that someone is trying to do something to
help people. It's good work that you are doing, and you should feel very proud of what you are doing to help people. I really hope you persevere with your work and are successful. Kiran 4/17/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| I've just joined and have been reading a lot
about loneliness on the site. So far, so good! I'll keep checking in.
Lois 4/17/2006 Rated site: "A Little Helpful" |
| Hello there, I was just reading the web of
loneliness and was surprised to hear there are so many people out there
who feel alone. I am a 35 year old female living alone with no family and
have had an ongoing problem with loneliness for many years. However things
are improving, I joined a club for people in my situation and have made
some good friends and have travelled roung the country meeting them. My
problem has been finding similar people with the same experiences as
myself, as many people of my age are alone due to divorce and have family,
and although I can empathise they have had different experiences and I
cannot relate to them. I was agoraphobic for many years due to bullying
and even now will not venture out at night. I have no siblings, and my
parents died as they had me late in life, I was totally alone and things
had to change. My advice to anyone who is lonely is to get out there and
do things, take a hobby, mix with people who you have things i! n common
with. I know the feeling of going out , walking down the street and
passing families and couples, you feel a big brick wall between you and
them. Thanks to an amazing club I joined I have made some great friends
who really believe in me and have helped my confidence enourmously. You
just have to get out there, if you shut yourself away nothing will change,
I know because I did it for years. The reasons are too lenghtly to go
into, but things don't always stay the same. Last year I found myself a
boyfriend, but we are taking things slowly, it has taken me 10 months to
accept it has happened, it was so hard to imagine after 35 years of being
single! He also has no family and is older than myself, the first few
months of the relationship seemed so surreal. If I wouldn't have made the
effort to get out and meet people I wouldnt have my freinds or the special
man. Life is very short, make the most of it. You are never too old to
banish the loneliness, it is only ! too late when you're no longer here. I
hope that this true story give s hope to anyone who feels down and
despondant. Things can change. I wish I could set up my own friendship
club to get people together who are lonely, as I know how vert unpleasant
it is.
Gemma 4/23/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| Some of the things I've read here are profound
and I found myself wishing I could meet with everyone else because we have
such similar backgrounds and feelings about the world and people. I feel
like a locked box has been cracked open upon reading this website.
Kevin 4/23/2006 Rated site: " Helpful" |
| the attachment theory material is so interesting
........i studied it in college and ended up living with the professor
that taught it ! my relationships have always been a challenge ...... yeah
, screwed up childhood , abuse , sexual , emotional , physical and
spiritual . i have tried to "create " a loving family throughout
my life . i pick thewrong person . get wrapped up in the high that a
relationship brings.in love with "being "loved ..... they leave
...i dont think i am promiscuious , just need that one person in my life
....i am not a drinker , druggie , but maybe a "shrink" would
lable me with some bullshit when all the long i have suffered at the hands
/ minds of my parents who due to their lack of relationship skills have
hurt me .irreversibly i guess .....love is so crucial , critical . it
makes us human ......the yearning is what makes us human ..........touch ,
not un invited or freaky abuseive touch . but the touch from that person
in your lif! e that hits the mark is the only thing that seems to drive us ......what fucking hell ......... Corey 4/28/2006 Rated site: " Very Helpful" |
| love the poems
Arturo 5/1/2006 Rated site: " Very Helpful" |
| I can't be bothered with anything these days,
but such is life. I don't care. So it goes. More or less nothing seems
worth thinking about. I've just been hanging out waiting for something to
happen, but that's how it is.
Greg Guepy 5/3/2006 Rated site: " Not At All Helpful" |
| mind you, I still feel lonely, but at least I
know I'm not going crazy. Someone does understand.
Maria 5/13/2006 Rated site: "A Little Helpful" |
| i thought i was slowly going crazy over the
years. Fortunatley i found this website and now know that although i do
feel alone im not the only one.
Thanks Miss Toor 5/26/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| Nice site!
Hans Doer 5/26/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| Comforted me to read some parts, made me cry to
read other parts because of how close to home it hit. MTF 6/2/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| -- Steve Ropiak 6/10/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| -- emmanuel isu 6/26/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| Hope to read your dissertation. Keep up the good
work.
Raj 6/27/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| It was only recently that I even recognised
loneliness at the heart of some social and emotional issues that have been
troubling me in past weeks. The website helped to further define the
nature and implications of loneliness and I'm now on my way to taking
active steps to open up more of myself to others, take the risk of
exposure, and not only gain better friendships but also know myself better
too. As a flipside to acknowledging loneliness, I also realiise how much I
undervalued friendship and emotional connection with others. People who
feel deeply lonely may be amazed that one can be lonely and not clearly
realise it.
Greg, Sydney Australia 6/27/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| -- Dee 6/29/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| -- Laura Durbin 7/2/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| Loneliness is for me the most terrible and sad
feeling i have ever experienced and i do not wish being loneliness to
noone ...
Greetings for all lonely and for people, who are happy not to be lonely .. Paola 7/7/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| nice to see this site.
Martin 7/7/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| Thank you, I appreciated it- sensible,
encouraging, friendly. May God bless you.
em 7/9/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| Today's been a turning point. I've been able to
recognize and define my experience of lonliness. I'm writing my personal
experience and hope to share it soon. Thank you for being a voice and a
place to be heard
Harmony 7/12/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| this site is great i found all kinds of
information to help me.i am a 15 year old girl.and i think i am the sad
passitive.i do write poetry and books,and i draw alot i have drawn ever
since i was like 5.i dont do drugs or anything,i just sit and think
mostley.when i get lonely i go and pretty much cry myself to sleep.i
figured that wasnt working ,so i found your site.i think it is very good
what you do ,i mean help people.it is very good of you .i am sure that you
have stopped a couple of suicides.my family consists of 5 girls and 3 guys
in one house,we are all from the same parents.i am the oldest girl,and i
think when i was little my mom didnt give me any attention when i was a
baby and i think my dad was in war.hes back now.she said i went through an
ugly stage because i cryed so much as a child that my eyes where
permanantly red and puffy for about ...well till i was about 9.i just grew
numb them.but now i constantly get critisized for doing something wrong.it!
seems like the others are perfect little angels and i am the rotten one of
the bunch.
unseen shadow 7/24/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| I'm exremely lonely. I am divorced now after 22
year marriage.
lisa morse 7/24/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| I am having a rare spell of loneliness. Looks
like I want to feel secure and I am not. I have been hurt. I see why I
feel lonely from what I have read. For once I know the answer to a why. I
don't feel less lonely though but it is nice to feel less confused!
Lydia 7/25/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| I am looking for cause of loneliness
Sally Park 7/27/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
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Susan Young 7/27/2006 Rated site: "A Little Helpful" |
| I do not need to understand loneliness - what I
was looking for were other lonely people - not dates, nor relationships
like other sites have. I am alone a lot of the time. I am not board, nor
depressed. I have an education, a job, hobbies (too many really). I just
need to be heard and I need to be heard by people who are also lonely, but
not depressed - a good old chat about anything kind of thing I would think
would help. thanks
Angel 8/2/2006 Rated site: "A Little Helpful" |
| this website which i was looking for a long time
ago and i have found it by chanche coz i wanted ot find a solution for
being lonely though i'm married but still lonely. of course, i'm a female
from saudi arabia. thank you dr.sean for this website and i'll gothrough
it starting from today coz i've already discovered it and I'll be in touch
with you if i need something. so be ready.
emy aseery 8/4/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| I was feeling very lonely all day even though in
my mind I have no reason to be lonely at all. I have two wonderful kids
and friends and family. Yet, I am using many of the coping skills
described on your site. Thank you for your suggestions. I feel much better
after reading about loneliness, not as anxious as I was before. May God
bless you and your work.
Wendy 8/4/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| thank you for having a website like this. people
who you have a healthy peer group dont always understand the pains and
behavioral effects of loneliness. thanks for helping those who are
sometimes forgotten and dont know what to do. sincerely,
Patrick Davis 8/5/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| My story is not really dramatic. I'm just single
mother with 3 children. I have a good job and am financially independent.
The kids are doing well in school and life. So in the grand scheme of
things although things are not quite perfect, I really shouldn't complain.
But it does get lonely going through life on your own.
Aini Abdullah 8/7/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| Thank you for this website. It provided a great
deal of insight into why I feel as I do, as well as seeing that others
feel the way that I do. I feel a great deal better from reading it.
Holly 8/9/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
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Shaunra Orr 8/10/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| found your site on google. I was wondering what
it was that I was going through and I found it on your site. Thank you for
explaining things so well that I have been able to see what I was going
through and can move forward now. A thousand thank yous
8/20/2006 |
| I was feeling very lonely this evening, so I
decided to surf the web about the subject of 'loneliness' and I ran into
your site: II suddently feel that I am not alone anymore because there are
many of us experiencing the same. Thank you for bringing this issue to the
attention of web surfers.
Rose 8/28/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| Sometimes joining clubs, getting a job, and
going out to meet people doesn't get rid of the problem of loneliness: it
aggrevates it because it's when I'm talking with others that I realise
that I'm not an average person but a freak as I'm a 36 year old man with
no experience of intimate relationships or any real life experiences that
others value.
Great website, great advice in parts. But I'm still lonely :( Miles Lacey 8/30/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
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Lynne 9/3/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| I am 55 with 5 children and 2 grandchildren. I
am married to my high school girl friend. 35 years. I have a career in
commercial printing. I have worked at one job my whole life …..also 35
years. I have lead a stable, conservative, productive life. I have
successful, healthy children. I have been lonely all of my life and only
recently has it gotten very intense. I am starting a process of self
healing and am just getting started. Your site is amazing. I thank you for
all you hard work and profound findings.
9/8/2006 |
| Just a quick note to tell you that I really like
your site webofloneliness.com. I have been feeling lonely/socially
isolated now for a few years. My marriage of 13 years dissolved in the
spring of 2005. I was feeling lonely during the last few years of the
marriage but this past year, post breakup, has been the worst. I thank You
for the great site! You have given me some good encouragement on my
journey.
9/9/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| I thought no one else in the world felt this
way, I learned I am not the only one.
Deborah 9/10/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| This is a great site. I had been looking for a
site that dealt specifically with loneliness and this is by far the best
one I have found.
Nelle 9/15/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| This site and others have really helped me to
understand a part of myself I didn't even know was a problem not too long
ago. It's good to know I'm not alone in my loneliness... Thanks
Michael 9/17/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| I am lonely, but no one knows it, I am outgoing
and friendly. Yet, I do not know how to seek out friends, and how to let
them into my world. Reading your site was comforting to me, especially the
part that described poets descibing themselves as having "the lonely
secret". Ahhhh, now that I have heard the words that describe myself,
I shall go pick up my book and continue reading....
Genius idea you have here Sean, thank you! Terri 9/17/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| I visit your site very often. And with each
visit it becomes more and more pleasant to me. It is felt at once, that
professionals work at the site! It is such an unusual occurrence nowadays!
reinimat 9/23/2006 |
| I lived a life where everyone used me as their
"freind" or "buddy" amd when they didn't approve of my
behavior everyone pushed me away and tried to forget me. I have a mental
illnss and every few years I go manic and all my family and freinds told
me to either "go die" or "go away" this year. I was
not invited to any family gatherings this year and felt true loneliness
for the first time in my life as I dwindled away on the streets, a
homeless lunatic given up by his loved ones. I am half torn in loneliness
and neglect and wonder why I ever let people use me as their "freind"
when really I was just another one of their con jobs. Atleasty I have a
home now and feel better for life in a certain way, I am not homeless
which is better than the way I was. Now I'm still lonely but not lost.
Dave 10/09/2006 Rated site: "A Little Helpful" |
| Though I haven't gone through all of your
website as yet. I will when I get home tonight - I am very impressed that
this important human condition has been given such intelligent and
considered attention looking at the various aspects of loneliness. I bet
it is a Godsend to many. I will send my own story soon.
I wish you every success with your work and am certain your website would have provided certain levels of relief, anticipation even hope to many. Rosemarie 10/11/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| Well I know for sure that somewhere I'm wrong s
I'm looking over every psychial problem and well this site is the one
who'm I recognize myself in I know my english is crap as long as you can
read the part about thx very much :)
Amber 10/15/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| this web of loneliness was a great
help...especially as i have my project on the same topic..i.e..,loneliness
in single child and child with siblings...so if u could help me give a
little more information on this it would be of great help to me...thanks.
Lydia Josephine 10/18/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| Thank you for this insightful website. I do need
direction in howing to cope with the deep loneliness I experience. I thank
you again.
Chris D 10/18/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| I'm very impressed with the site. I have had
diagnoses of depression and anxiety in the past, but recently a mental
health worker blurted out that I was "JUST LONELY!". This web
page has a lot of insignts into the causes of loneliness. Now, I have to
figure out how to change my mode of thinking to alleviate it.
Anonymous 10/18/2006 Rated site: "Very Helpful" |
| this website sucks!!!!
jt 10/26/2006 Rated site: "Not At All Helpful" |
| Can always count on feeling as others do.
Joe 11/23/2006 Rated site: "Helpful" |
| i'm surprised about what i read in your webpage.
I have read some articles in some magazines of psicology but i don't trust
any of them. I don't believe neither in "autohelp/self-help"
books (sorry i dont know how excatly they are called). I've always felt
lonely. Last year i felt into depression. I started to look for
information, answers or theorys. I think you described very well
everything abouth loneliness. Thank you so much for helping to find the
words to describe what we feel inside, sometimes it is difficult, you just
can't explain it but feel it. Good luck with your project!!
Martha 11/28/2006 Rated site: " Helpful" |
| Hi Sean! hmm.. Loneliness for me is sometimes a
good feeling, i welcome it, and see so i will have enough of it.. and
sometimes just a very deep sad feeling. I have felt periods of loneliness
in my life, and somehow i like the feeling of being alone, if it is my own
choise.. But sometimes my loneliness can become a very sad and bad
feeling... i think that somehow i always end up lonely... and i keep
wondering if it is my destiny to be alone.. I belive that the human is
always truly alone, but one can be more or less alone.. I feel very alone right now, and i dono when the lonely feeling will go away... i dono what im doing wrong to always feel this.. i just cant seem to find the state of mind when i will feel less alone. I wanna be able to chose when i want to be alone, cause then loneliness will be a friend. Not a enemy. Wish all you lonely out there a nice day.. Joannax 12/18/2006 |
| have just arrived. I am portuguese and I've seen
only the first page, but I intend to explore it deeply, because it's a
very important subject.
Greetings from Portugal (Suburbs of Lisbon) Pedro Cordeiro 12/26/2006 Rated site: " Helpful" |
| good stuff for a saturday night.
Louise 12/30/2006 Rated site: " A Little Helpful" |
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