How To Meet A Partner Without Using Online Dating Websites

6/14/2013

It seems that the only way to meet a potential partner in the 21st century is to go online and use an internet dating service. Since the early days of them being stigmatized as being only for use by geeks and losers, they have become widely accepted to the point where discussing your online dating activities is no longer considered taboo. There’s even a variety of niche websites catering for everything from what people wear to work to how much money they have in the bank.

Like social media, online dating has stood accused of eroding society because it takes away the personal element of meeting someone. Yes, you will sometimes meet people face to face, and on occasions that’ll be the person you spend the rest of your life with, but it’s still impossible to escape the fact that meeting people online, as much as it might be promoted as the modern way, is unnatural and very unromantic.

That said, you probably need some inspiration when it comes to finding a new partner. Here are some other places you can start to look, without taking out an eHarmony subscription.

Sporting Events

Sporting venues are not the male dominated, testosterone fuelled man caves they used to be ten or fifteen years ago. Dating While they have veered more towards families, it is increasingly common for groups of women to be seen at football, cricket, baseball, and various other events around the world.

Whatever your gender, you’ll likely be pleasantly surprised by the possibilities for meeting people at a sporting event.

If the thought of going up to someone in a stadium and chatting to them makes you feel uncomfortable, then join a community group that indulges in extreme sports or a pursuit that you’re passionate about.

Get Musical

If you’re going to go to concerts and other music related events, it is probably best to stay away from alcoholic beverages, or you’ll then be slipping into the dreaded problems when you meet people in bars, in that the only thing you have in common is a double Bacardi and Coke.

You could always teach yourself a musical instrument with an eye on joining a band, or challenge yourself to something like saxophone lessons in a group situation. If you’re not confident, than do some online learning yourself before stepping into that scenario.

Speed Dating

Dating It would be fair to say that speed dating hasn’t reached the levels of success that many people thought it would when it first came on the scene, in part due to the popularity of online dating.

Speed dating is exciting and actually involves meeting people in person, which can only be a good thing. Most people have a perception of speed dating as being a group of people sitting around a table, but there is actually a number of very dynamic companies that host a range of events from ‘lock and key’ parties to simple singles events with a speed dating option.

Stay Offline

You don’t need online dating to meet people. Whether you choose the speed dating option, or take up a new hobby such as a sport or a musical instrument, you can meet a partner in an abundance of ways without needing an online profile.

Robert is a professional musician who often hosts intimate gigs where single individuals can come along and meet each other. Robert also offers private music tutoring services to people of all ages,

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28 Comments

Val link

6/18/2013 01:55:47 am

Well said! You don't necessarily need to be online to meet someone. The old, offline methods are still there and may even work better in some cases.

Jamaica link

7/21/2013 04:16:19 pm

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karen thin link

9/30/2013 06:26:03 am

Online dating sites today is increasing and it has lot of great help to look for partners.

david grey link

10/14/2013 12:53:53 am

yes you are saying correct but according to my perspective online dating sites are good for those who are finding a right match to share their talks, their feelings, their emotions frankly. So dating sites proves to be a better option for him

laurie

10/19/2013 02:16:48 am

now I don't like using online dating as I feel that it is so impersonal. surely if your going to meet your partner, husband or prospective "soul mate" then it should be spontaneous and not online.

Dating sites might work for some and it might be the only way for them to meet people but for me I will use the more traditional methods.

Theodora

11/11/2014 04:28:28 am

online dating dnt work for me,I prefer the traditional way but it is sometimes difficult to know mr right and mr wrong.

Matthias link

11/18/2013 05:59:02 am

Hi,

this is a great nice site of yours with many interesting issues on it. Keep on going.

Matthias

Linda

11/28/2013 01:47:32 am

I have tried the online dating, and the only thing I got is a stacker. I met a guy on a website and after a couple of days realized he wasn't who he said he was. He in the mean time hacked my phone, so had to have that backed up. I went on three different dating sites and the same guy showed up again using other peoples profiles. I had to have my phone backed up again last night. He blocked me out of christianmingle so I have lost the 60.00 I paid for z subscription .

rabia

7/21/2014 01:22:07 am

sori mai dia linda jst stay strong that's how the world is

Robert link

9/22/2018 01:01:51 pm

Whereabouts are you? Are you too far away for me? Are you interested in an honest artist. But don't have a mind made up about what an artist is. I can't say I'm anything else because that would be a lie! Oh, forgot, I am not too young any more. About 157.

princess rabia

7/21/2014 01:25:55 am

sorry my dear linda you have to stay strong thats how the world is

sid

9/21/2014 04:44:07 am

I just recently joined 3 well known dating sites and have discovered after doing some crafty research that most of the women on their probably don't exist, there are supposed to be hundreds in my age range and local to me but I received no replies to an ice breaker and nobody returns my messages, the only answer's i got were from all parts of the UK but none anywhere near me.i think it's one big con.and that only a few actually find happiness.

Sherrie

5/29/2015 12:36:30 pm

I know the feeling. I don't want to meet anyone at a bar. On line dating scares me. P.s. keep your chin up & keep smiling

Joanne

2/6/2015 02:49:56 pm

I m confident I'll meet people if I make the effort
What will be will be
I guess it's really up to me
Lonely for sure but don't know if I'm ready to face all the changes

billy link

7/13/2015 05:42:06 am

good information
i dont think beautiful or sexy girl come on a dating site for find a boyfriend . do you!

Muriel link

7/27/2015 02:06:25 pm

to the guy who said will a sexy beautiful girl wont come on a website looking for a boyfriend
I get compliments on mu apprerance sometimes it is a shame you are looking for a relationship becaue you look very attractive
or I get dirty talk people who say they are looking for a serious commitments asking me if we meet what tis there after wards when I talk to some one for a while they tell me you sound a very nice lady
but they never ask to meet just talk and then disappear
so I have given up looking for at least for a friend for conversation wish I were looking for a woman I am sure they are not that shallow
unfotrtynateoy I am straight

Marie Carroll

5/21/2016 10:19:32 am

Looking for someone to talk to that want to talk back to me

Phillip

11/5/2016 01:22:26 pm

Good evening Marie, I will talk back. Regards, Phillip

Marie Bailey

5/21/2016 10:34:48 am

I am a 68 year old who have joined a few dating sites without any luck in finding a friend just talk to. Hope to find some one that feels the same

Richard S.

8/31/2016 06:12:28 pm

A dog park I think is a good place to start if you have a dog.

David Barry link

12/23/2016 03:36:20 pm

well its a tough one ? over 50 no kids what was i doing the other years not enough baby making it looks like or staggering home .
Guess i was a late starter . tried the step dad scene that can be great if you meet the right lady but when you meet bitches get the hell out of there in 60 seconds bin liners will do . I love casino RD said 30 seconds . Dating sites have to be for very isolated or people with kids . hate them . when your not from the area its difficult or under 6 foot you may draw a blank . hand lots of cash over and you could well be screwed over . dont join for longer then 3 months thats even to much . Possibly dancing is good to meet or a night class or choir . cookery may be good these days , good luck really really

David link

1/2/2018 06:08:30 pm

What do they have all in common? Just a money making racket. Never able to find anyone serious enough to put in the time to get to know the other person. Women are as evil as men and I shave been taken for a ride several times. Most are them are looking for a sugar Daddy. Once they get what they want,they move on.

Maggie D.

5/6/2018 07:00:18 pm

I write a blog about online dating. Some of it is good and some of it is downright dangerous. I have had friends take the date's word for who he is and end up losing their savings. I have had others, who refused to pay out, threatened. Unfortunately, you never know who you are actually meeting on the sites, because hacking pictures and profiles is an easy busy for some scammer to be in and these scammers use fake information without any qualms. Is that to say everyone is awful? No. But, what it does say is that online, you cannot see the body language we depend on so much when we meet face to face. Rules to follow, should you insist on online dating, check for type of work. Most scammers are offshore engineers, jewelers, in the service and any other career that would require them to be where you will never actually MEET them. They will usually have eloquent profiles, but when you begin sending messages, suddenly they do not spell correctly, cannot put a decent sentence together, etc., because they do not know our language. They will profess to have fallen madly in love with your picture and within one or two messages, will ask you to marry them. BUT FIRST, there is an emergency where they cannot possibly get to you unless YOU send the money for their trip. Should you be so foolish, there will be another reason for more money - a whole new sob story. Usually, if you are widowed or divorced, the scammer will have a daughter of about 12 years old. With senior women, he will say he and his wife had her late in life. Those are scammed pictures, too. So, date online, if you wish, but DO be careful. Check the person out as carefully as you possibly can. DO NOT, under any circumstances give your cellphone or email address immediately. If he is insulted that you won't, run because this is a scammer. Good luck in your search, no matter how you do it, for the perfect mate.

Daron link

9/4/2018 08:04:23 pm

You name it and it has happened to me. I learned a hard lesson on dating places and online sites. Nothing has worked. I have little family and few friends. What there is of it is dysfunctional . Live on a rural small run down ranch and have had nobody in my life in 17-1/2 years. Been divorced 3 times and I have feared since high school that I would be alone the rest of my life and so far that seems to be the case as I will soon be 68. This is one avenue to try to make more friends.

1LLT Los

9/28/2018 07:39:13 pm

Hello I am new to this site. Ironically, I inquired how to meet women sans a dating site. Am a mature male and have tried website dating and did so successfully. The relationships were wonderful but so long distance. I live in Southern California am Conservative and a traditional man, a retired professor, former soldier and professional fine artist - Enjoy all the basics and am a very good partner and easy person to know. Hope I can meet someone here Thanks

Neil

3/10/2019 01:29:27 pm

I’ve had mostly bad luck on dating sites in recent years. It seems the scammers have flooded these sites. And many sites are comming online that are totally fake. A good suggestion is to create a secondary email dedicated only for dating to vet out any potential scammers from authentic people. Scammers will flood your email with all sorts of hookup sites or other scammers will email you. Don’t give out your phone number because scammers will constantly text you. Get an alternate phone number if you can for dating to vet out the scum.

greg kilick

6/22/2019 11:08:20 pm

A lot of online dating sites have folk who do not pay to be members but their portfolios are displayed so leaving a message will never be replied to as they are blocked
Now there's another problem some profiles have been there for years and its because you very hard to remove your photo
i was contacted by one lady but my son reviewed the pictures and wondered why she had an Adams apple and big biceps so you will see a lot of remarks like only a real women should reply .well its tough out there and dangerous I think owning a dog or borrowing your neighbors is a good idea plus join New comers in your town and go to their gatherings as i have made coffee dates with older ladies without them showing up due to their picture being 20 years ago which is a shame

Maggie

7/16/2019 09:51:10 pm

I tried setting up a widow/widower group and it worked great for all of five meetings. In a small town, people just do not want to be bothered getting out. I tried suppers out, theater, parties, coffee shop meetings, movie night at home, game night and people say they want to meet others, but talk is cheap when they won't actually DO something.

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