Below are some selected entries made to my guestbook. I hope that perhaps you can identify with some of the sentiments expressed here.
this is a great site
Peggy 2/24/02
Peggy 2/24/02
Lonliness is a state of mind There is one and 0nly one cure for this pathology. I have the remedy, do you? A five letter word and it's not money.
-- 3/6/02
-- 3/6/02
Fantastis effects and informative
Shaz 3/14/02
Shaz 3/14/02
this web site was very useful for me. I am writting a paer about loneliness for a class called "intrapersonal conflict". I am looking at the relation of the feeling of loneliness and conflict. I would love if you can share with me some of your knowledge about it. Hope your project can become a reality!!! I amo not for the US. I am from Colombia and I am finishing my masters in Conflcit analysis and resolution and communication
-- 4/9/02
-- 4/9/02
I liked the site and pages on Loneliness. I'm writting and Exhilbation in Loneliness. This sites was a great help.
Thanks
Lauren 4/18/2002
Thanks
Lauren 4/18/2002
'I've just encountered this website, and haven't looked over much of it ... however, I hate to say this, but going by what I have seen, I think it's just going to tell me what I already know ... which is a cold comfort.
I'll post again when I've looked further.
Sam 5/4/2002
I'll post again when I've looked further.
Sam 5/4/2002
I recently came upon your website. I congratulate you on choosing loneliness as your dissertation project. I am a psychotherapist, recently widowed, senior and seeking a plan to heal and contribute my experience and knowledge to others. I would appreciate reading your research on the topic. Good Luck and Best Wishes
-- 5/6/2002
-- 5/6/2002
I find your site very interesting because I am also a psychologist (Bsc) and I am preparing a draft for my master's thesis that will be about social and emotional loneliness. I am interested in coping with loneliness also.
so keep on going with this web, it's very useful.
Marina 5/29/2002
so keep on going with this web, it's very useful.
Marina 5/29/2002
Seems always alone, stay bored, daydream alot and wish people would not judge by look or how much cash you have.
Kat 5/29/2002
Kat 5/29/2002
Thank you so much for your website. I'm looking for alternatives to the isolation I've imposed upon myself. I'd say I've been lonely since I was a child. My mother left my father and didn't even want custody of me. That really hurt. Dad moved around a lot and I never made any lifelong friends. I've had problems with alcoholism and drug abuse. In fact, I got engaged to a prostitute (drug addict) while she was in prison (of course, she left me too). I had acne when I was only 10 (I was called names like pizza face). Now, I've been a telemarketer for the past 5 1/2 years and I deal with rejection on a daily basis. I absolutely HATE my job, but where else can I make over $10/hr. without a college degree? I've never been married, and at almost 30 years of age, I doubt I ever will be. Your website is very insightful and I hope I can figure out how to cure my lonliness and paralyzing fear of people (especially attractive women).
Scott 6/28/2002
Scott 6/28/2002
This is a great site. I read the guestbook and it felt good to hear other people that are lonley too. I'm a very sensitive person, and I feel that I don't have anyone that I can talk to about my feelings and a lot of other things. I offer my encouagement and understanding to the rest of you that are lonely.
Andrew 7/8/2002
Andrew 7/8/2002
I love this website! As an artist I think it is wonderful. To the person who wrote the poem "Pain", all I can say is that it is beautiful! How heart rendering it is to know that sorrow can bring about joy in knowing that the human species will always be linked with shared emotions. When I was a child I always wanted the gift of wisdom. As an adult I have learned that the answer to my prayer comes from pain! Once again, I love your website and if there is anything I can do to help let me know.
Cynthia 7/11/2002
Cynthia 7/11/2002
Your site was and is very helpful in helping me cope and and understand loneliness. Hope that you can include some famous people who had to deal with loneliness. People like Abraham Lincoln. This will give people like us more incentive and courage to deal with loneliness and have victory over it.
Peter 7/14/2002
Peter 7/14/2002
I am feeling depressed and on the edge of ending it all. I have one girlfriend no real prospects. I have nothing to show I was here.
I am a shy have no confindents to speak tp strange and new people. Incuding women.
I do not want to be alone for the rest of my life so when I return from my travels that will be that....
waterratau 7/19/2002
I am a shy have no confindents to speak tp strange and new people. Incuding women.
I do not want to be alone for the rest of my life so when I return from my travels that will be that....
waterratau 7/19/2002
I am currently feeling very lonely and yes it is a very self absorbing state and I don't see any way out at the moment, your site helped somewhat, was unable to call up questionnaire.
-- 8/15/2002
-- 8/15/2002
Dear Sean,
What an awesome sight! It is amazing to see and feel your compassion! May your dreams and visions prosper! May your life continue to touch, change and impact all those whom you touch through your heart, soul, and wisdom.
Warmly,
Sherry 8/27/2002
What an awesome sight! It is amazing to see and feel your compassion! May your dreams and visions prosper! May your life continue to touch, change and impact all those whom you touch through your heart, soul, and wisdom.
Warmly,
Sherry 8/27/2002
Thanks for doing this..
Sincerely,
Cynthia 9/1/02
Sincerely,
Cynthia 9/1/02
The mid 20s Identity Crisis...I'm at the tail end of it. Nice to read what I already knew.
excellent site
-- 9/5/02
excellent site
-- 9/5/02
The site is absolutely fantastic! you are a great mind. by the way I am a writer and I'm working on a book on Loneliness. Can i quote some of the stuff in here?
Stella 9/6/02
Stella 9/6/02
I love this site. It was able to answer alot of questions I had regarding my own battle with lonliness.
-- 9/8/02
-- 9/8/02
Thank You Sean,
You've made a lot of people sleep a little easier tonight. What is most specific is most general. Best to you.
Laura 9/16/02
You've made a lot of people sleep a little easier tonight. What is most specific is most general. Best to you.
Laura 9/16/02
I am a person living with multiple personality disorder and lonliness is a big part of what I feel. The disorder can be so isolating at times. I have a website that you might like to see about MPD at http://angelfire.com/my/sherbear
Thanks so much for having this awesome site!
Sherry 9/17/02
Thanks so much for having this awesome site!
Sherry 9/17/02
I had to loneliness for a school project. But I felt lonely all the time but now I have a boyfriend and he is the love of my life and now I don't feel as lonely I feel like some one likes/loves me. It makes me very happy!
A.R.B. 9/26/02
A.R.B. 9/26/02
I wondered about the art of loneliness. I expected the usual bleak little pictures. But these were rather lush and pretty. If these are the visions of loneliness, it seems more a place of sensuous comfort and mystery than pain. Actually,I am intrigued by that view of loneliness.
Ray 9/27/02
Ray 9/27/02
just wanna those days miss the normal life. coming home to someone you love being happy even though its misreable. you hate where youre at but miss it when youre gone.life has you make decions some good some bad . who's to say being sad for the short term is better than the long.
-- 9/27/02
-- 9/27/02
WHEN YOU ARE LONELY IN A CROWD YOU THINK YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE FEELING THAT WAY, THE ODD ONE OUT. THANK YOU THIS SITE MADE ME RELIZE THAT THIS IS AN AFFLICTIONS MANY PEOPLE OF ALL AGES SUFFER FROM.
I AM GRATEFUL THAT YOU ARE OUT THERE FOR EVERYONE.
Dawn 10/1/02
I AM GRATEFUL THAT YOU ARE OUT THERE FOR EVERYONE.
Dawn 10/1/02
Loneliness I have known a lot and have much difficulty at times getting over it. Now that I truely realize what it is, it doesn't scare me so much. Thank you for your inspiring words
-- 10/6/02
-- 10/6/02
In terms of form, there were no problems with downloading the information.
In terms of substance, I want to thank you for giving me a new way to see myself and my lonelines trait. I say trait because I did experience rejectment and abuse as a child and the reason I was searching for psychology self-help websites was because today I was in extreme pain and dispear. I do feel much better now, after having a number of other websites and ending now with yours. Thank you once again.
-- 10/19/02
In terms of substance, I want to thank you for giving me a new way to see myself and my lonelines trait. I say trait because I did experience rejectment and abuse as a child and the reason I was searching for psychology self-help websites was because today I was in extreme pain and dispear. I do feel much better now, after having a number of other websites and ending now with yours. Thank you once again.
-- 10/19/02
I want to write a poem about loneliness. Its dank hollowness pervades my entire life.I don't believe I have ever been loved, but I've been used .Extreme physical beauty, superior intelligence and education, as well as sophistication interact to isolate me from that which I want most. Reciprocity. All I've ever known is unrequited love, or the irrational fears of others.
'O' 10/19/02
'O' 10/19/02
This site was very helpful to me, regarding finding solutions to loneliness.
Edie 10/21/02
Edie 10/21/02
Being lonely might be a state of mind, but I can't alleviate this inner pain burning inside the core of my heart. I moved out of my parent's home recently, and not on good terms. I am more than stressed. I go to school full time and work 30 hours a week. My boyfriend and I are serious and my parents totally disagree with us being together and it makes my life so much harder. Many nights I cry my self to sleep, and I try to study, but I can't focus. I don't know what to do. Work helps a little bit, but lately I have been feeling more depressed than not. It feels like right now it is me against the world. Every night I am by myself. My boyfriend works nights and I work days and partly nights. I feel so overwhelmed with these new depressing feelings. HELLLPPP! I just want to sleep and eat all the time. I would love to sleep all day and night everyday, that way I could not feel this dispair. I know I sound miserable, but I am just being honest.
C.H. 10/25/02
C.H. 10/25/02
Thank you so much, since my girlfriend broke uo with me I found so many feelings I never felt, like deep sadness and lonelyness, as well as strong hate and fear... I spent 25 years without a problem like this, but I was really in love and the breaking up was so sudden I didnt expect it.
Your website has helped me to understand and shed some light into how I feel, and why do I feel it.
Thank you so much for all your help, i think it will help me heal a lot faster.
Alexis 11/02/02
Your website has helped me to understand and shed some light into how I feel, and why do I feel it.
Thank you so much for all your help, i think it will help me heal a lot faster.
Alexis 11/02/02
Married, 55, feel alone, disconnected. Parents are 80 and will die some time soon. Daughter in Minnesota, son getting married to a girl with a large family (glad he will have people). I can see myself becoming more and more alone.....
Carol 11/02/02
Carol 11/02/02
Your site has been very useful for research for my final year project for speculative futures. The site downloaded at a good speed, (especially on our univesity network which is renound for being slow!!)
unfortunately I was not able to fill in the questionnaire, I would have like to, perhaps you could put another on here sometime?
thanks!! Stephanie 11/06/02
unfortunately I was not able to fill in the questionnaire, I would have like to, perhaps you could put another on here sometime?
thanks!! Stephanie 11/06/02
You really did your homework. About everything I went through, it's all in the site. 90% of it. You should know that when you've been feeling it for a long time, you also develop a feeling of numbness, as in a trance. It may be chaos all around you, but on some level nothing bothers you. I find self-actualizing activities help a lot in coping like developing a skill. Just thought of sharing.
-- 11/12/02
-- 11/12/02
Your site is very informative and interesting. I would very much like to see a copy of the questionnaire to see how my responses compare with your other respondents.
-- 11/14/2002
-- 11/14/2002
This is a fabulous web page. It helped me understand a lot of the feelings I've been having and why I've been having them. Also I plan to ask my therapist about some of the things to help me towards my goals of wellness. Thank you for your dedication and research in on loneliness.
Sincerely,
Stacey S. 11/23/2002
Sincerely,
Stacey S. 11/23/2002
i found your site quite helpful in coming to terms with my feelings right now.
some interesting stuff. thanks
Linda 11/26/2002
some interesting stuff. thanks
Linda 11/26/2002
I feel like crying most of the time for no reason. I feel like no one cares about me especially my "friends." Sometimes it seems like there is no point in doing the things I do.
Lawrence 12/1/2002
Lawrence 12/1/2002
hi
i am also an undergrad student of psychology from India.as a part of my final year I am supposed to to do a dissertation.i am looking at the adhjustment patterns of early and late adolescents as affected by their family variables and also by their personality factors .i am looking at loneliness as one of the cause of maladjustment.Your site was of great help in finding material for loneliness.I have registered as a member on your site.
Thanks for such a great amount of information
buzyb2k 12/4/2002
i am also an undergrad student of psychology from India.as a part of my final year I am supposed to to do a dissertation.i am looking at the adhjustment patterns of early and late adolescents as affected by their family variables and also by their personality factors .i am looking at loneliness as one of the cause of maladjustment.Your site was of great help in finding material for loneliness.I have registered as a member on your site.
Thanks for such a great amount of information
buzyb2k 12/4/2002
I found all of this very interesting and it has really given me a lot of insight into my personl experience of loneliness - which, by the way - seems to have beome more acute as I get older.
-- 12/6/2002
-- 12/6/2002
I am writing an article for an newsletter that is for older adults and their families
Richard 12/8/02
Richard 12/8/02
COOL SITE
AARON B. 12/9/02
AARON B. 12/9/02
It is a great website. Loneliness is the most terrible emotion one can ever feel. It has been making me less and less productive recently. I feel like I cannot possibly cope anymore. I am a neurosurgical trainee and feel even more lonely as I advance in my career, to the point where I don't see the point of all these work and goal. I have a sweetheart but I still feel lonely. I am dying inside day by day. Help.
NeuroSx 12/22/02
NeuroSx 12/22/02
Hi,
I got my PhD in Social Psychology in 1999. My dissertation was on social anxiety and loneliness. I developed a scale to assess the thoughts of lonely and socially anxious people. I conducted 6 studies to validate it, including videotaping lonely and non-lonely people having a social interaction with an opposite sex person.
Good luck with your research.
Galen 12/24/02
I got my PhD in Social Psychology in 1999. My dissertation was on social anxiety and loneliness. I developed a scale to assess the thoughts of lonely and socially anxious people. I conducted 6 studies to validate it, including videotaping lonely and non-lonely people having a social interaction with an opposite sex person.
Good luck with your research.
Galen 12/24/02
Hi. It's Christmas night. I'm alone in my house. I seem to not be able to escape being alone, no matter how hard I try. Most of the time I just accept it and I enjoy being by myself. Sometimes, though, I get very sad and distressed because I can't understand why I am alone. About an hour ago I was writing in my journal and I asked God to please tell my why I have been so isolated all my life in spite of consistent and determined attempts to belong ( 15 sober years in AA, 4 in Alanon, many years in therapy, volunteering for many different causes)--somehow I am still the one that no one notices or who ends up separated from the group. I also asked that God please let me know if there were other people out there like me. God is always swift to aid me (except in sending me friends and giving me situations where I feel like I belong.) I turned the computer on and typed the word "loneliness" and found your website. Thank you, Sean, for providing just what I needed.
-- 12/25/02
-- 12/25/02