Below are some selected entries made to my guestbook. I hope that perhaps you can identify with some of the sentiments expressed here.
i like the poems
RANEISHA B 1/6/2005
RANEISHA B 1/6/2005
I am surprised to find that there is a website dedicated to loneliness. I am married but lonely and I have been feeling this way for sometime. How many times can one communicate about loneliness with a partner when the partner thinks the solution is sex? Very lonely, don't have close friends that I can share my inner thoughts with. Diary - workable but not confident about writing my brain out. anyway thank you for the enlightnment and sure hope to use some of the advise you gave (the productive ones:-)
1/13/2005
1/13/2005
I just wanted to suggest that you put up a message board for people to discuss loneliness. I really think it would be a good idea.
-- 2/2/2005
PS Message board is available at http://support.webofloneliness.com
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PS Message board is available at http://support.webofloneliness.com
I found the Web of Loneliness just yesterday and it is such a powerful website! It is clear, friendly, warm, inviting and to the point. I'm pleased to have found such a site and I feel less lonely already :) I feel empowered knowing more about the causes of loneliness and that it is not just something people say they feel to get the sympathy of others or to get attention. I would say it is much like depression, an illness almost. It's not tangible but it is very real. I love the dark but strong colours used on the site and the layout. I have found it easy using the site so far and hope to continue to! I've yet to do the questionnaire and look forward to doing it. Thank you for this site Sean and please do continue with it. It is a blessing :)
Andrea 2/10/2005
Andrea 2/10/2005
I am new to youre site so I can't say much at this point.
George P 3/8/2005
George P 3/8/2005
well I thought I'd tell you why I'm lonely I think It's because when I let people in thay endup useing me your treat me like a fool. then I close myself off to them and others, I well in time under stand but I'm still lonely .
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I think the site is excellent, visit it alot. Cheers
Rach 3/12/2005
Rach 3/12/2005
An interesting site...as a lonely person (primarily in the evenings only), I am fascinated by the subject...what causes it and what it might portend. My appreciation abounds.
Marshall P 3/15/2005
Marshall P 3/15/2005
This website is quite interesting, and I always like to delve into the subject. I suffer from chronic lonliness, and I do not seek help. For almost a eight years I have been friendless (second grade to tenth grade). First it was bullying, then it was neglect. Yet I wish the best to everyone else here, and I hope that their pain soon will be quelled as mine cannot.
Evelyn B 4/1/2005
Evelyn B 4/1/2005
I just feel that I am the only one that can be surrounded by people and still feel very very lonely am I the only one who ever feels this way.
Melissa 4/1/2005
Melissa 4/1/2005
i found this site very helpful, i dont feel quite as alone anymore now i know there are reasons for how i feel and others who feel the same.
-- 4/4/2005
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I do lots of research on the internet because I like to understand things instead of taking someone's word for it. Your website was perfect for helping me understand my life for the last 40 years! I am one of those chronically lonely individuals, I remember being lonely as a five year old! Finally, from reading your explanations I realize why, and since I told you I've been lonely off and one for 40 years you can guess the reason why! I surprisingly have never even thought of suicide! But it was interesting to finally realize why I'd do certain things, and I've done them all! The part that hurt the most to learn is that yes all those little remarks about what other's have and I don't means I've reached that bitterness and anger level and I don't think I'll ever NOT be lonely! My 13 year old used to be the one that helped but that was up until she turned into a teenager and boy did she become different, from my sweet little do anything for Mom child to that chit chatting with her friends and Mom do I have to type child! Now I'm back to the hardcore loneliness again. I haven't thoroughly finished the entire site. I'm taking these bits of information a bit at a time, I'd much rather fantasize about running away with a certain singer!
Thanks again.
Lonely wife & Mom of 3 in WI 4/6/2005
Thanks again.
Lonely wife & Mom of 3 in WI 4/6/2005
I find everything on your site very accurate. I've been experiencing loneliness since I was 9 ( I am now 15) and it has forever changed my life. I also have a "fake self" the hyper me at school. SO nice that some people don't see loneliness as some psychic killer type of personality.
-- 4/14/2005
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Good site. Very informative. I learned alot, but little that helped me. Not to say that this site doesnt have useful things, just nothing for me. Still, good site. Nick 4/24/2005 Rated site: "A little helpful"
Glad to find this site, Maybe it will be helpful if even just to read of others for now. I had two close online friends just end freindship of many months with such indifference after much warmth and fun, and happy close times. No reasons given. I like to be needed, appreciated, helpful to others. I'm compassionate, caring to those I get to know much better. Expected I might find same back for me when I needed it, but Thats where I've been disappointed. Dont want sympathy, just compassion and understanding as I have given to others. I never criticize except in defense of myself, and not cruelly, but honestly. There is enough of criticism and Cruel honesty in the world along with the lies and fake people playing roles. Maybe I join you someday in chats? I saw a "TOM" writing on here earlier in 2001, felt like I do. Where are you? 8-)
Thanks! Sean for this site, could use more of these, know there are too many lonely people who could use more sites like this on internet. lildragon (what my 'friend' used to call me as an endearment. 8-(``` Still raw and hurting-
lildragon 4/27/2005 Rated site: "A little helpful"
Thanks! Sean for this site, could use more of these, know there are too many lonely people who could use more sites like this on internet. lildragon (what my 'friend' used to call me as an endearment. 8-(``` Still raw and hurting-
lildragon 4/27/2005 Rated site: "A little helpful"
Thanks for the good job
STEPHMENS 5/7/2005 Rated site: "Very helpful"
STEPHMENS 5/7/2005 Rated site: "Very helpful"
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Joel 5/23/2005 Rated site: "Very helpful"
Joel 5/23/2005 Rated site: "Very helpful"
your site gave a very discriptive view on loneliness
Joel 6/3/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
Joel 6/3/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
Hey stumbled arcoss your website, I love it. I think that its really good, great source of information. I suffer from clinical depression so experince alot of feelings includ. feeling alone. Good luck I think its great you have got your own domain name now.You should def keep up the good work.
Rach 7/14/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Rach 7/14/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
I learned a lot from you website. I am lonely...and I hate it. Two of my friends had babies in Dec 04. Several of my single friends have found boyfriends and spend most of their time with them. My family lives in a different city. A few months ago, I had a full social calendar full of close friends and fun times. Now I find that people are too busy to spend time with me. I now know I have to go out and meet new friends. But because of my loneliness, I find it difficult to motivate myself to socialize. I find myself spending time at home alone, doing housework, running errands, and yes, even drinking (which I am so not proud of, but it seems to alievate the loneliness). This is very hard for me to go through as I've always had close friends in my life. They all just seem busy and moving on with their lives and doing stuff with people who are more like them (i.e. spending time with other new moms, spending time with other couples, etc). I'm not sure how to get out o! f this and motivate myself to get out and socialize. I sent out an email on Monday asking people to get together for a drink after work on Friday...I asked 10 people...all responded with they have plans for that night or are going away for the weekend with friends. Only one responded in the affirmative...and he is bringing his two kids along who are visiting from England. I can't tell you how heartbroken I am that most of the people have plans...and I have none for this weekend. I am also seeing someone for about a year now...but he doesn't want his children to know he is dating yet...we've talked about it a lot...and he even doesn't want us to go out in public yet...it is a complicated situation but I can understand his reasoning...I wonder if I am putting up with this because I am lonely and want someone - anyone - in my life...friend or lover!! Thanks for putting perspective on my loneliness...I have some thinking to do (which apparently is normal in lonely people...we are introspective...and that may be a good thing right now... :). Thanks,
Rachael 7/14/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
Rachael 7/14/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
Nice site, its nice to know what exactly all the aspects are and how to go about changing them. Can't say im revalated but definatly makes me feel better to read this.
Talon 7/14/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Talon 7/14/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
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Mike 7/20/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Mike 7/20/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
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Mary 8/15/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
Mary 8/15/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
Thank you for sharing this information! I think that if more people had this information the world would be a healthier place.
Brenda 8/20/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
Brenda 8/20/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
This webpage is very helpful in understanding more about loneliness
Chris 9/3/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Chris 9/3/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
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DeeDee 9/6/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
DeeDee 9/6/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
I was just floored when i read this site. I was lonely and typed in the word "loneliness" into my browser and this site was one of the links that came up, and WOW! there i was. I never "Fit" more than one or two of the symptoms of depression, but i "Fit" a great deal into the loneliness catagories. I am a "Trait" loneliness person. Even in a crowd i am still lonely. My significant other always askes me why i am so affraid to be alone and i continually correct him that it's not about BEING alone, it is being LONELY, he still doesn"t get it. but thanks anyway for all of your great effort, i now have a better path to discovery thanks to your efforts. Keep it up!!! and congratulations on graduating!!! You made it!
Cheryl Ann 9/7/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Cheryl Ann 9/7/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
I think that everything mentioned on this site is useful and it's all about us. I feel relieved while reading about someone else's being down or sad, that it's not only me who's been in this sort of situation. But, i also know that loneliness is a disease and the more we feel sorry for ourselves - the deeper we spin in our problem. That's why i really appreciate those articles and essays on the site that are dedicated to methods of fighting with our despair. It's just too often we give up and do not have enough potential..
Thank you
Thank you
Martin 9/9/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
Thank you
Thank you
Martin 9/9/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
This website helped me understand the different types of being alone. and that everyone is alone... at some point in life. my lonliness is fuelded by being all the guys best girlfriend(one of the guys) instead of being one of the guy's girlfriend. My guy friends tell me that i am everything that a guy looks for when then look for the ideal girl when they are ready for a relationship, they even joke and tell me that i should teach classes on how to be a cool chick cuz im chill, laidback, outgoing, funny, understanding, not jealous, and easy to open up to girl. i dont get why they say im perfect yet im not good enough for any of them to want to date me. I've even come close to dating a couple of them, but they said that im too much of a friend... or that they werent ready for a relationship and when they were that i would be the first to know... but i dont want to wait around for them to be ready. ive been single for almost five years. i feel so alone when i go home! at night and have no one to go to. i just want to pain and sadness of being alone to go away.
Sarah 9/22/2005 Rated site: "A Little Helpful"
Sarah 9/22/2005 Rated site: "A Little Helpful"
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Pam 9/29/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Pam 9/29/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
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Robien Winchester 10/04/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
Robien Winchester 10/04/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
the poetry makes me want to write some stuff subject
MM 10/17/2005 Rated site: "A Little Helpful"
MM 10/17/2005 Rated site: "A Little Helpful"
after graduating from college and starting a career at in my early 20s has brought me here. every man I let in my life has treated me as 4th class and every woman i 'try' to be cool with has given me the heaveho. i've tried to rid of this loneliness but only end up hurt, especially by men. i hate it when the phone rings because only one person rings me, my dear mother. without her on this earth I think I'd kill myself and that's a solid promise I made to myself. there's 4 billion people on this earth, but I feel like I'm on a deserted planet. life can be cruel
Trace 10/28/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
Trace 10/28/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
hi my names cathy, i was very lonely until i found out that me and my sisters long term boyfriend had great connections in more ways than one and so i basically stole him... its all a game really tho isnt it at the end of the day so i dont feel bad.. would love 2 hear your views tho as u ppl must b lonely aswell 2 b reading this guestbook lets b friends...
Cathy 10/31/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Cathy 10/31/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
I did not know that there was an entire website dedicated to loneliness. I found this site while completing a school paper and found descriptions of myself in the content. Thank you for shedding light on this important topic.
Jessica 11/1/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
Jessica 11/1/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
I really appreciate having access to a website devoted to loneliness. I have had a lot of experience with loneliness and feeling alone. Most of my experiences have been unpleasant. I would have appreciated having information about how to deal with my feelings of loneliness, years ago.
Janice Cheeseman 11/3/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
Janice Cheeseman 11/3/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
Thank you for making this page. It helped me identify my specifics in my loneliness, and by understanding it, I can cope more freely. You have really, really changed my life. I was contemplating suicide, but when I stumbled across this page, and read the last sentence of the suicide ideation (Loneliness can be overcome, even if you feel like you cannot escape it, there is a way out, others have done it before you and you can too.), My feelings changed drastically. You gave me a confidence nothing else could have, now I'm quite content with my life, but still a tad lonely. I can't thank you enough.
Lexi 11/6/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
Lexi 11/6/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
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Rita Garcia 11/13/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
Rita Garcia 11/13/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
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Glenn C 11/16/2005 Rated site: "A Little Helpful"
Glenn C 11/16/2005 Rated site: "A Little Helpful"
I find this website a comfort. I go to it alot. I am a father of 2 teen boys and am about to go through my second divorce. I have always felt alone with my wives and could not get support and love from any of them. I stand alone again afraid for the future and wondering if someone will ever love me again. Robert 11/18/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
I also subbed to the yahoo group but don't see any of my messages being posted. Not sure why this is, perhaps I've done something wrong? Thanks for all the efforts you have put into this site and the yahoo group if you began that as well. It's nice to have a place to turn to.
Nancy 11/26/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
Nancy 11/26/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
Very nice site. I really like the calmness of the colors you use in it. It is very user friendly also. I know I am not alone... there are many who feel the same as I. One of my favorite quotes, and I do not know who it is from, is; "WE ARE ALL ALONE TOGETHER..." Maybe if lonely people realize this, it'll help make them understand it, and to feel less lonely!! Thank you.
Carrie 12/1/2005 Rated site: "A Little Helpful"
Carrie 12/1/2005 Rated site: "A Little Helpful"
I was disappointed immensely that the discussion group linked to this site with the same name requests "approval" before you can become a member. How depressing! Most people on message boards are very mean to begin with. I'm already lonely. I don't need more rejection!
K 12/5/2005 Rated site: "A Little Helpful"
PS The discussion board requires "approval" to ensure that spammers are not allowed to join the group.
K 12/5/2005 Rated site: "A Little Helpful"
PS The discussion board requires "approval" to ensure that spammers are not allowed to join the group.
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Mary 12/6/2005 Rated site: "A Little Helpful"
Mary 12/6/2005 Rated site: "A Little Helpful"
I'm happy I found this website. I have experienced loneliness since I can remember. And this site definitely helps me understand why that is. My "fake" self has plenty of friends. The real me has nothing but tv and movies. I'm even in a great relationship but I always feel misunderstood and not-special. I even thought of hurting myself to get attention...but never acted on that (aside from drinking). Now I see why thanks to this site. I plan to get counseling as soon as I feel like I can afford it. I can't continue to feel like this with no control of the situation.
Deanna 12/6/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Deanna 12/6/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
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Annita Walker 12/8/2005 Rated site: "A Little Helpful"
Annita Walker 12/8/2005 Rated site: "A Little Helpful"
This is a cool website. i got a lot of information subject
Kara 12/13/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Kara 12/13/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
I am very alone but when i found this website i've been alone but i will find someone to be there so i wont be alone subject
Kara 12/14/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
Kara 12/14/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
Thanks! This website is really helpful! Btw for you loners out there, listening to "Incomplete" from Backstreet Boys and hugging my pillow really help me. :-) Ronald 12/19/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
that gave me some understandable reasoning of the basic cause of my lonlienes can be.. but i will see if i can chage my state to the better throu this undertanding of it.i can change things back if i change things coming. i pray to god that he might give me and others who want to heal the power to do so. amen. hey, thank you for your contribution.
diaspora-afro 12/21/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
diaspora-afro 12/21/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Hi Sean, I was recently looking for internet resources on loneliness to augment my work and found your site. Seems to be a helpful resource and I'll pass it along - Keep up the good work!
Stephen Shostek 12/22/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
Stephen Shostek 12/22/2005 Rated site: "Helpful"
I have searched the web many times looking for resources and support groups dealing with loneliness but never found anything. But, the other day I thought I'd try again and found Web of Loneliness. I am so thankful that I found this site. I now have a little glimmer of hope that perhaps I can move through my feelings of loneliness and isolation.
Kathy 12/26/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Kathy 12/26/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
I am not at all surprised to find a loneliness web site. I have identified with your comments on how VERY painful loneliness can be. I am male aged 43. I went straight from parents to marriage and have NEVER lived alone before. My wife left me (actually manouvered me out of our home), with our daughter 3 months ago. The resulting loneliness is crushing. I do have some friends but find that when - say - the friends who often visits me on a Monday evening can't make it for some reason it's terrible! It's awful having a whole weekend stretching in front of me with nothing arranged - and of course the Christmas season was horrible. Even talking to friends on the phone or having a visitor can never substitute for that familiar feeling of my wife and daughter always being there - in a relationship with me. Now they're gone and the emptiness and pain is unbearable. It's like the example you give about being ready to burst.
There MUST be other resources for people feeling lonely beyond the dangerous dating agencies etc!
Richard 12/27/2005 Rated site: "A Little Helpful"
There MUST be other resources for people feeling lonely beyond the dangerous dating agencies etc!
Richard 12/27/2005 Rated site: "A Little Helpful"
When I read the information provided on your site, it was reading the thoughts in my mind. You have touched a lot of the problems I have been facing all my life and have given me some ideas to work with. When you write you book, not if mind you, I will certainly buy it. I can see that you have suffered from loneliness because you have such an indepth knowledge of it. Please keep your site up on the net as it can be so helpful to many people looking for answers. Thank you for caring!
Beth Cooper 12/30/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Beth Cooper 12/30/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
I have always had feelings of being alone. I have had a few friends from time to time but no one that I can call close.
I got married 13 years ago, and it helped for a while, but now I feel almost worse then when I really was alone. Your web site has helped me understand and explain some of my feelings as well explain some of the problems in my marriage. Thanks.
Paul Bennett 12/30/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
I got married 13 years ago, and it helped for a while, but now I feel almost worse then when I really was alone. Your web site has helped me understand and explain some of my feelings as well explain some of the problems in my marriage. Thanks.
Paul Bennett 12/30/2005 Rated site: "Very Helpful"