Below are some selected entries made to my guestbook. I hope that perhaps you can identify with some of the sentiments expressed here.
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Meenu 1/2/2007 Rated site: " Very Helpful"
Meenu 1/2/2007 Rated site: " Very Helpful"
art student who suffers torment and horrifying mental anguish as a result of loneliness. My loneliness is such that i have to keep it to myself- in my experience when people find out my "condition" take a backward step thus making my loneliness more defined and the pain continues....
Steve 1/4/2007 Rated site: " Very Helpful"
Steve 1/4/2007 Rated site: " Very Helpful"
This is probably a very widespread problem so it makes me feel better that I am not alone with these feelings. Also, it helps to know that someone cares.
Laura C 1/11/2007 Rated site: " A Little Helpful"
Laura C 1/11/2007 Rated site: " A Little Helpful"
I'm a Gulf war vet and of course I'm lonely. All my friend are still in the military and I have to deal with the morons at the local VA.
Jim 1/20/2007 Rated site: " A Little Helpful"
Jim 1/20/2007 Rated site: " A Little Helpful"
At the present moment I am quite unable to do justice to your website, but, having found it I feel that things will become much better than they are at present.
Jimmy 1/24/2007 Rated site: " A Little Helpful"
Jimmy 1/24/2007 Rated site: " A Little Helpful"
I just found this site by accident and it describes me perfectly in so many way! I was emotionally and verbally abused as a child/teen ("you're no good, won't amount to anything, you're ugly, etc") so I actualy came to believe these things. As a result, I've always had trouble making friends and have been divorced twice and am now widowed. I'm in a loving relationship with a man that I've been with for over a year but I have no "real" friends and he's commented several times that he's never met any of my friends. (Just a couple of ladies I've had over for supper while he was here once). Now I ask myself, "what do I need to do to get out there and meet new people?" But even though I've described to him the abuse I suffered as a child by my mom, (we have a great relationship now!) he doesn't understand how it totally affected my self-esteem and worth of myself and how I've built walls around myself. People tell me I'm "nice", "pretty", "personable" and "truly care for others" but I don't feel I have enough confidence in myself. I know I have my work cut out for me in trying to change this situation because I'm tired of being this way! Thanks for this "site" because I've been totally engrossed in reading and getting some ideas on how to tear down these walls and let others see the beautiful person God made me to be.
Jennie 1/25/2007
Jennie 1/25/2007
This site helps explains things better. For me, I never feel lonely when alone, I only feel lonely when in a crowd.
Anonymous 1/30/2007 Rated site: "Helpful"
Anonymous 1/30/2007 Rated site: "Helpful"
I had read your articles and they are very very informative it is exactly what I am suffering from and I did not know what a was. I've been talking to a consular but she did not make me a relies what you made me realize. What I was a child I was physically and emotionally and sexually abused . I have created walls around me for protection and that left me with feeling of solitude. Your articles has giving me a clear picture of a big part of my illness. Thank you very much, keep it up
Richard 2/12/2007
Richard 2/12/2007
Feeling lonley at different stages in my life at the moment.
Shellee 2/13/2007 Rated site: "Helpful"
Shellee 2/13/2007 Rated site: "Helpful"
Sean,
Simply - thank you very much for creating this webpage. I haven't finished reading it, but knowing how "normal" my feeling of loneliness is already has given me the sense of balance. Good, profound resource. I am very grateful.
Tom 2/18/2007
Simply - thank you very much for creating this webpage. I haven't finished reading it, but knowing how "normal" my feeling of loneliness is already has given me the sense of balance. Good, profound resource. I am very grateful.
Tom 2/18/2007
I definitely relate to the heart to heart poem. I lost my husband 8 months ago, and we had friends all over Australia. Those friends are very very few now, but never thought in a million years I would feel so sad and lonely and feel like an extra in life. It has taken up to now for me to break the crying cycle but now loneliness, not knowing what I want to do or be is a very big part of my life.
To all out their don't ever just be a couple, always always keep your family and friends close by. It is the after that is very hard to cope with
Shirley 3/3/2007
To all out their don't ever just be a couple, always always keep your family and friends close by. It is the after that is very hard to cope with
Shirley 3/3/2007
I am a mature divorced male who does foster care for young people. I work at home, and am very lonely, depressed and very much hug deprived. Each day I feel like a prison warden, confined to my little circle.
Dave 3/9/2007 Rated site: "A Little Helpful"
Dave 3/9/2007 Rated site: "A Little Helpful"
Sometimes, it hurts. I cry as I write this, because I sometimes feel there nothing that can be done. At least I know I am not the only one feeling this...but in a funny way, knowing you are not alone (in feeling this way), makes you feel more alone.
Jennifer 3/18/2007 Rated site: "Helpful"
Jennifer 3/18/2007 Rated site: "Helpful"
this site expresses every angle of depression and lonliness one human can possibly contain within themselves its a real truth site and its touching to see beautiful pieces of life situations.
Aley 3/19/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Aley 3/19/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
I just woke up three days ago to how lonely and useless my life is and how I've been used so much. I've gotta get better; there is no worse
Donna 3/21/2007 Rated site: "A Little Helpful"
Donna 3/21/2007 Rated site: "A Little Helpful"
Well Sean I for one am glad you kept the website up and running. I have been suffering from loneliness for quite some, but I was never able to define my emotions. I thought I was having an off day, just mine came frequently as opposed to others. My childhood was extremely turbulent, and subsequently I drew inward instead of outward and became painfully SHY. There are times when I can masquerade my feelings and put forth a positive foot, and then there are days when I can’t. It’s when I came across your website I realized I’m not alone.
Ava 4/30/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Ava 4/30/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
i want to say thanks, this is a really good site and im glad i actually found a site like this.
vanessa gilbert 5/4/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
vanessa gilbert 5/4/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
It helps just to read that other people are experiencing the same phenomena. I believe that every human being will experience loneliness at some point in his or her life. It is how we deal with it that seems to be the key.
Ed 7/21/2007 Rated site: "Helpful"
Ed 7/21/2007 Rated site: "Helpful"
This is very good effort that you have put up. I really appeciate it.
Buddhika 7/27/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Buddhika 7/27/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
During yet another time of intense loneliness, and what I assume to be separation anxiety, I discovered your site. it was very comforting to know that there are people who understand these distortions of the mind. Thank you for the rays of light that penetrated the darkness.
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Jessica 8/24/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Jessica 8/24/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
are you fucking stupid.?! the articles that were read are nothing. Loneliness is fatal and very scary. Very!I am an alcoholic due to a break up two years ago, now it has become nothing but misery on top misery.30 yrs old no job no career nothing. Society puts pressure on people for this n that. Women have taken the meaning of chivalry out of the dictionary. Loneliness. You have no idea how alone i feel and know what to expect in the next 30 + years. God has forsaken thee ,the devil wants my soul and i WILL not give it to the slimy Bastard. the only comfort is my dogs. I wish i was never born.
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I am happy because I dove into the void of the internet, where everyone is placing the blame for people becoming more lonely, and found comfort that I couldn't get elsewhere.
Caroline 9/8/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Caroline 9/8/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
I was the admin of incelsupport.org but have since abandoned running it. It seems few incels are interested in solving their problem. I believe very few incels / chronically lonely stop being so.
Jim Ferer 9/9/2007 Rated site: "Helpful"
Jim Ferer 9/9/2007 Rated site: "Helpful"
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chris carras 9/22/2007 Rated site: "Helpful"
chris carras 9/22/2007 Rated site: "Helpful"
Thanks for this web site. I will explore it further. I moved to this city eleven years ago and initially did a so-so job of getting out and meeting people. Then about five years ago I had to start spending a lot more time at work. I quit making time for my few social contacts and put on a lot of weight. I'm a gay man, so the weight gain made me feel so unattractive and unwilling to get out and meet people for potential friendship or dating. (Gay men tend to be very looks-oriented, so I could surmise how I would be judged.) It was a downward spiral from there. I got to the point of abusing alcohol badly, but the alcohol was actually masking my loneliness as things got worse socially. Earlier this year I had two seizures (a terrifying and rattling circumstance) and had to give up alcohol. That's good, of course, but without the "masking" over the summer I realized how miserably lonely I am. I'm trying to gather the courage to get back "out there." As others have said, I'm most lonely when I'm in a crowd. Like going to a movie or a museum alone, or passing a sidewalk cafe. And noticing that I'm the only one by myself! Well, I just started crying. To whoever might read this, I apologize for rambling on. This has been cathartic. I feel like I can't discuss this with my few remaining friends and dear sisters because they would worry about me. And they're all hundreds of miles away and unable to do much on a practical, everyday basis. I will keep looking around this web site and at some of the links. All of us here can make things better for ourselves! Thanks.
D 9/23/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
D 9/23/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
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Renee 9/26/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Renee 9/26/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Thank you
Vera Marie 9/27/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Vera Marie 9/27/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
I love the poems so many of them reflect me so well. I thank you that and helping me understand better.
Shelly 10/6/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Shelly 10/6/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Thanks for the hours you have taken putting your website here for everyone. :) Design a great day,
Janet M. Davies - New Zealand
10/10/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Janet M. Davies - New Zealand
10/10/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Hiiii Sir....... m a medic from INDIA n rlly found dis site so truthful, so amazing n so real as today life is so lonely spclly for students n mainly the professional one courses where everyone wants the life 2 be shared with someone but not everyone is lucky in dis world. aftr al vstd ur site n got a full flash picture...so nice of you sir n thank u so much from all loneliers of this world for whom you are sharing the grief.
God bless U n bEst of LucK !!!
Manpreet S Bindra 10/13/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
God bless U n bEst of LucK !!!
Manpreet S Bindra 10/13/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
I just found this site so i dont know how helpful it is yet
Lee 10/24/2007 Rated site: "Helpful"
Lee 10/24/2007 Rated site: "Helpful"
Very Nice!
Leonard 10/30/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Leonard 10/30/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
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Timothy Barton 11/2/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Timothy Barton 11/2/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
I stumbled upon this website and found it to be quite helpful. I think the computer is making people isolated and alone. I met my husband 11 years ago on line and now after being married for 10 years he has left me. I am now feeling quite lonely since we have no children and I am no longer working full time. The days are long; I have a great family and good friends but it does not appear to be enough to keep me busy. This website hit it on the nail. There are too many lonely people in outer space.
Human 11/6/2007 Rated site: "Helpful"
Human 11/6/2007 Rated site: "Helpful"
I liked this site. I'm reading about loneliness to try and figure out my own. This site has a human touch. I like that it is not all objective and clinical.
Misty 11/10/2007 Rated site: " Helpful"
Misty 11/10/2007 Rated site: " Helpful"
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Julie 11/13/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Julie 11/13/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
I got so absorbed in the fantastic artwork I forgot to be lonely!! What a fantastic site. Thank You!
Pheebs. ;0) 11/15/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Pheebs. ;0) 11/15/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
I am interseted in studying loneliness and will be loooking at your site more closely. Thank you
Janet McClelland 11/21/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Janet McClelland 11/21/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
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Axel 12/3/2007 Rated site: "Helpful"
Axel 12/3/2007 Rated site: "Helpful"
Dear Sean I ran across your web site while researching ways to deal with lonliness. I recently retired from teaching, and find some of my down days(days I have no plans) difficult to structure. I know that I personally have had bouts of lonliness reaching back into childhood. I assume it is a combination of situational and attachment issues.
At this time I am making a plan of actions , in addition to introspection ,and hope it will help me make progress in this area; I want to continue to grow and progress; life does not end at 65. Thanks for the information.
LaJuana bryan 12/14/2007
At this time I am making a plan of actions , in addition to introspection ,and hope it will help me make progress in this area; I want to continue to grow and progress; life does not end at 65. Thanks for the information.
LaJuana bryan 12/14/2007
Thanks! :-)
Carlton 12/24/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Carlton 12/24/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
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Zdenka 12/26/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"
Zdenka 12/26/2007 Rated site: "Very Helpful"