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Film Review: Safety Not Guaranteed

8/18/2013

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The one thing I like about this movie is that it looks at loneliness from four different people. Each person definitely has some underlying loneliness theme in their life (whether they admit to it or not) and throughout the movie their theme's get played out in very illuminating ways. While each of the four stories unfold, each of the main characters also interact with one another and the intertwining of stories from each of the four characters also leads to some interesting insights into loneliness as well. The four different characters are:
  1. Darius - The movie opens with Darius and shows a very stereotypical view of what a lonely person would look like. You can see her getting excluded from social circles, difficulty establishing connections, and at one point her father wants to know why she hasn't had sex as yet.
  2. Kenneth - Is the author of the classified ad in the trailer. (For those of you who did not watch the trailer) Kenneth put out a classified ad that said that he was looking for a partner to time travel with. They must provide their own weapons, their safety isn't guaranteed, and that he has done it once before. Throughout the movie, there is a delicate balance that is maintain about whether Kenneth is really a deluded person, or if in fact he knows exactly what he is doing. It's only at the end does the movie satisfactorily provide an answer. The reason why Kenneth is looking for a partner taps right into his own loneliness and isolation.
  3. Jeff - Is the news reporter who gets two interns (Darius and Arnau) to go with him to investigate the ad and write a story. Jeff is not presented as your stereotypical loner. Jeff has a very outgoing, friendly, salesman type personality. He seems to have no problem with hooking up with women or skirting the rules when need be. In fact, I would argue, if you were to ask Jeff if he were lonely, he would probably deny it. But as his story unfolds in the movie, there becomes a clear realization to Jeff that the intimacy he longs for has been missing in his life.
  4. Arnau - the last character and whose story line is not as pronounced as the others. Arnau is presented as the typical nerd, complete with pictures of flames on his computer, because his computer is fast. He is very much in his shell for most of the movie, but throughout shines through his shell to provide one-sentence pieces of advice that prove to be remarkably insightful. The reason behind his self-created shell strikes at the heart of loneliness for most folks.

Besides the individual story line, there are definitely strong intersections between Darius and Kenneth and also between Jeff and Arnau. It provides an interesting message that while we may be wounded ourselves, we are still capable of helping others, and perhaps through the process, helping ourselves. The title, aptly named, Safety Not Guaranteed, I believe reflects on the fact that when navigating through waters of loneliness and intimacy, there is no guaranteed safety. You'll have to take a chance, and sometimes that chance can have a big payoff.
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Film Review: The Year of the Carnivore

6/2/2013

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First off, as a disclaimer, The Year of the Carnivore is a bit of a racy movie, as you can probably tell by watching the preview. It converges on two topics well-known and bitter-sweet by the lonely, love and sex.

Most reviews of the movie portrays the lead, Sammy Smalls, in the movie as a quirky, tomboy girl looking to improve her life, her job, and her love life. Sammy finds herself in a predicament because she desires to be in a relationship with a aspiring rock musician, Eugene, but at the same time has trouble having sex. 
Every time she has sex, she laughs uncontrollably and in a way that makes it seem as if she is laughing at the person she is having sex with. At the same time, Eugene, the object of Sammy's desires, is going through his own problems, trying to discover himself as a musician and to understand what he desires in a relationship.

As the story progresses, two very powerful things happen. First, Sammy discovers one of the really important secrets about being in a relationship, and that is, having the self-confidence to demand respect and to be yourself. If the other person cannot accept you for who you are, then they aren't worth your time. Second, Eugene discovers that painful and hurtful memories of the past affect how we form relationships in the present. Despite Eugene's best attempts to keep things superficial, he later realized that they are in no way satisfying his intimacy needs.

Though the movie is a bit quirky in its story telling, the underlying message is a powerful one for lonely folks - understanding and loving yourself is an important prerequisite to loving others. The movie takes you on a wonderful ride with Sammy in her journey towards self-discovery and love.
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Film Review: One Week by WOL member Thomasz

3/10/2013

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What Would You Do if You Had One Week Left to Live?

 Benjamin Tyler, closing in on his 30th birthday, is living a banal, but financially comfortable life working as an English teacher at a Toronto elementary school. Though a bit shy, Ben is handsome, well educated, and has excellent social skills. He comes from a loving family and, after years of putting it off, he has finally gotten engaged to his beautiful fiancée, Samantha.  From all outward appearances, Ben seems to be doing just fine. However, below this veneer of accomplishment, Ben is keenly aware that he has become increasingly disengaged from his own life which lacks any real passion, purpose, or direction. Aside from Samantha and his family, Ben has no genuine friends and he is a lonely traveler on his own life’s journey. Instead of being driven by his own desires and choices, Ben’s life seems to be set on auto-pilot and is propelled forward more by inertia and his own indifference.

Ben, a writer at heart, has already written his first great novel. Unfortunately, he felt so wounded by the constant rejection he received while trying to get his book published that he has chosen to simply give up on that dream completely. Now, his days are spent teaching English Literature and trying to inspire his young students to "seize the day" and acquire the wisdom he is offering them. Regrettably, even Ben’s best efforts appear to be wasted on children who are far more focused on texting their tween friends than listening to any teacher dispensing advice.

During a routine checkup, Ben suddenly discovers that he has Stage Four cancer which has already spread throughout his body. He has only a ten percent chance of survival even with the most aggressive forms of treatment. Ben feels fine now, but he knows that his cancer treatments will likely leave him feeling far more dead than alive. He decides that before he starts treatment, he must have at least one great adventure in his lifetime. Against Samantha’s wishes, he buys a motorcycle and decides to drive across Canada from Toronto to Vancouver. Along the way, Ben has a quirky fondness for stopping at every roadside attraction that claims to be the world's biggest tee pee or the world's largest hockey stick. Ben's fascination with these oddities seems to parallel his own inner search for meaning and a life of greater significance.  

On his trip west, Ben encounters a wide range of ­­­people from whom he solicits advice on matters of love and the meaning of life. He seems to be hoping that someone may have the magic answer that will erase his self-doubt and set him on the path of self-actualization.  Unbeknownst to Ben, he seems to be a carrier of positive Karma and good luck for everyone he interacts with along his journey. The film employs a very clever omniscient narrator who lets us realize the powerful and lasting impact that Ben’s acts of kindness have on the lives of all those he encounters even though he thinks these moments hold no special significance.

Ben’s journey has a direction, but no destination. And what happens when, sooner or later, he simply runs out of west? Ultimately, Ben recognizes that he must face his ambivalent feelings about his life and the people in it before time runs out for him.  For the audience, Ben's attempts at coming to grips with his past and impending demise become a Rorschach card upon which we can project our own feelings of isolation and meaninglessness.  

But is any one single transcendent adventure ever really going to be enough to make up for an entire life lived far below its potential? Ben’s one week journey across Canada’s vast frontier has rekindled a new sense of purpose and drive to complete one last meaningful act before he departs from this world. Ben finally discovers how he can leave a legacy behind him which makes him feel authentically happy and proud for the first time he can remember. 

If you are looking for a movie that challenges you to looks at life’s larger questions, then One Week might just be a trip worth taking. The movie was filmed entirely in Canada and offers many spectacular sites and scenic vistas that are likely to be unfamiliar to most viewers.  One Week, filmed in 2008, runs for 1:34 minutes and is currently available on Netflix streaming service.  One Week asks far more questions than it answers, but I found it to be a film that resonated with me long after it is was over.  The official One Week film trailer is below:

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